Reversing Regrets: Why It’s OK to Feel Regret After Relocation and How to Move On

Moving isn’t always easy. Relocation for a new job, military deployment, or any other reason may come with a fair share of apprehension and even regret, but can moving houses cause depression? If you loved your old home, then the changes that accompany your move may be significant enough that you experience temporary relocation depression.

Although these feelings are normal and valid, you should also feel empowered to make the most of your new situation. Use these tips to help you find joy in your new home after relocation.

Acknowledge That Goodbyes Are Difficult

If you’re depressed after moving into a new house, then you aren’t alone. Plenty of people experience depression after moving, especially when a relocation pulls them away from a house, neighborhood, or community they really loved. First, give yourself time to mourn your old space.

If you’re still finalizing your move, then now is a good time to consider taking photographs of the house you’re leaving behind. You may also try participating in a ceremonial goodbye in which you and your family spend a few minutes sharing your favorite memories of your time there. This can help bring closure before you embark on a new chapter.

A brown duffle bag packed and ready to go, sitting on a wood floor

Get to Know Your New Environment

When you’re ready, Meghan Pachas, the principal broker and owner of MAP Property Solutions, suggests “getting out and exploring the new area you’ve moved to.” Pachas, who’s worked in real estate for 13 years, advises engaging in activities like “visiting museums and parks or seeing if there are any local meetups or groups you can join.”

If you have young kids, Pachas also adds, “Libraries are a great resource for family-friendly activities that can help you get out and meet new people. Sometimes getting to know an area and the people in it can help you feel at home.”

Pachas recommends using the resources around you to get a feel for a new neighborhood. “Most real estate agents get into the business because they like where they live and like helping people. If you’re new to an area, don’t be shy about asking your agent or property management office for recommendations about nearby activities or places to eat.” 

A small white house in a suburban neighborhood surrounded by green trees with an orange sunset in the background

Make the Space Your Own

When you’re facing down moving anxiety or depression, remember that your situation isn’t permanent, especially if you’re in a rental. Whether you’ll be there for the next year or the next half-decade, there are ways you can make your new house a place that brings you joy.

“If you don’t like the interior, start by adding pictures and decorations that make you happy,” Pachas says. Build an inspirational board on Pinterest or Houzz, and then tackle one room at a time so an interior makeover doesn’t feel overwhelming. Start small: Even a single elegant piece of furniture, brightly colored accessory, or thriving houseplant can really shift the mood in a space.

As you meet new neighbors, consider hosting a dinner party or backyard get-together to begin creating happy memories in your new house so that it starts to feel more like home. Relocation depression can leave you feeling unmotivated after your move, but take solace in the fact that it usually abates as you begin to feel more comfortable in your new surroundings.

A group of friends getting together to volunteer as a way to build community in their new neighborhood

Quickly furnishing and decorating your home can go a long way toward achieving that comfort and easing the transition. CORT Furniture Rental can make your home instantly move-in ready, whether you rent by the piece or by the room.

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